submitted by Kgirl

I wish to preface this discussion by saying I love my husband. Deeply. I wouldn't trade him for another. He is truly my best friend and has stood by me always. The issue I want to discuss and the question I want answered is, what happened to the really romantic guy I married some twenty years ago? The guy is still here, but the romantic part of him left a long time ago.
When I ask him why he is no longer romantic, he seems clueless and lost as if I brought up a whole new concept. I remind him of the many wonderfully romantic things he once did and all the beautiful letters and notes he once wrote that I have carefully saved. I mean this man truly wrote some of the most beautiful things you could imagine.
I have read somewhere before that when a man is trying to win a woman's heart, he throws his whole heart into it until he conquers and wins that which he is seeking and fighting for. Then he marries her and he is victorious. He no longer has to pursue her. Oh, he might stay with it for a few years until the babies are born. Then he has to conquer the working world to provide for his bride and children. And after awhile, the cares of work, family, church and everyday life take it's toll on him. He settles into life as he now knows it, and takes for granted that his wife will know how he feels about her since he expressed his love for her in such grandiose fashion during their courtship and early marriage. Can anyone relate?
Meanwhile, his bride thrived and blossomed on the love he showered upon her in those early days. She felt truly cherished. Then, pregnancies, parenting, and everyday life began to take it's toll on her. She begins to notice that she is getting older and the cute shape she once had is getting a little lumpier and rounder and her face is starting to wrinkle ever so slightly. She tries to take care of herself so she looks as pretty as she once did, but age is a cruel enemy. She wonders if he even finds her attractive anymore. She hates how crabby she gets some days after dealing with the kids all day and she wonders if she is still a fun and interesting person. In fact, she wonders if her only worth is in the clothes she gets washed, the groceries she shops for, and the hot meal she puts on the table each night.
I know that love deepens through the years and matures and a couple won't always feel "giddy in love" 100% of the time like when love was new. I can account for that. I am realistic. I don't expect my husband to leave me love notes and flowers everyday. But, what I am saying is a woman never wants her man to stop pursuing her. Even though the wedding has taken place and many years have passed, she wants to know she is still a treasure worth having.

If It's YOUR Big Day, Why Does It Look Like Everyone Else's?

Submitted by Kgirl

Has anybody else noticed the lack of variety in wedding dresses? This is beginning to really bug me. Have you checked out your local paper to look at wedding announcements or attended a wedding in the last five years? Absolutely every last bride has the same gown on, give or take a few minor details. Each and everyone of them has on a strapless gown. Now, you ask me why do you care? It's really none of your business anyway. I know, I know, but that is why I am writing this on the Unbloggable, to unload this opinion. Before you tell me to get a life, here's my beef about it:
Whatever happened to individuality? Whatever happened to finding that one perfect dress that wasn't being worn by every other bride in town? Somehow, all of that is gone because every bride regardless of size, shape, personality, lifestyle and budget is somehow magically drawn to that strapless gown. I know that wedding dress styles go through stages and dresses can be defined by the decade they were worn in, but dear people this fad has gone on for some time now and I am wondering if it will ever change. Someone start something new. Start the new trend.
Recent brides, what am I missing? And to those yet to pick out that once in a lifetime dress, I would love to see something different, something unique to your personality and tastes. And, if it is the strapless style you just have to have, and I am at your big event. Well, rest assured, I'll smile and tell you, "Oh my, what a beautiful dress."